The Secret Guide On How To Get A Girl To Like You In 2013

Get Her To Fancy YouIt’s an age-old question that will never cease to be asked, “How do I get a girl to like me?” Guys at some point in their lives always ask this question and for good reason. Women are sometimes hard to figure out and unless you have tons of experience (trials and errors) with them, then you’re left in the dark as to how to appease them.

Figuring out how to attract girls comes down to a variety of things. Not every girl is created equal, so you will have to use your better judgment for which tips would work best for that specific gal. Over time, you will get better at reading women and learning how to turn the tides in your favor.

Avoid Falling Into the Friend Zone

It’s a lot easier to fall into the friend zone than it is to get her to like you as a lover. If you’re not careful, you could end up having a long list of girlfriends who call you up and complain about the loves in their lives. To avoid this, you should show her that you have your eye on that you are not clingy.

Show her that you have your own life, yet still give her enough attention to know that she is a part of it. Guys who show insecurity, neediness and lack of confidence are quickly excluded from the potential boyfriend list.

Some guys also make the mistake of trying to make a woman comfortable, when what they should be doing is building attraction. When woman gets comfortable, she gets really comfortable and this could make her view you as a friend. Before you aim to make her comfortable around you, she first has to be attracted to you.

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Building Attraction Between You and The Girl

You’re already attracted to her, so the goal now is to make her view you in the same light. In order to build attraction, you will need to do so on all levels. Personal grooming is a no-brainer. Make sure that your hair and facial hair are shaped up and smelling good (nothing’s worse than smelly facial hair) and make sure that you’re wearing something that is comfortable, yet fashionable. If you are taking her out on a date, make sure to dress appropriately, meaning don’t overdress or under-dress.

Don’t think too much about trying to attract her or it will show and it will turn her off. It should come naturally, so just try to have fun and stay relaxed. Women like when guys seem loose because it makes them feel relaxed (first dates are uncomfortable for both parties, no matter how good she looks!).

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Other than the visual, aromas can be used to entice her. Don’t overwhelm your body with colognes Try to find something that isn’t too heavy, like essential oils and body washes. Don’t overlook the shampoo and hair products that you use, make sure that they smell nice and aren’t too overwhelming.

Keep Your Body Toned

Women don’t like guys who look out of shape. Not only is it unattractive, but it also makes you seem like you can’t protect them. No matter how independent a woman may seem, she wants a man that she feels secure with. If you are flabby and overweight, this will only make you look bad on multiple levels. You don’t have to be an Arnold Schwarzenegger, but you should try to keep your body looking tight. Hit the gym once or twice or week, or if you have your own personal gym, even better. A toned body will attract her to you more because this is linked to sexual desires.

Talk to Her

The only way that you can get the attention of any girl, you’re going to have to speak to her. Now that you’ve groomed yourself and gotten your confidence up in your visual aspects, you can approach the one you’re attracted to and get her attention. This is a scary step, but it has to be taken if you want any chance of making her like you. If this is your first time talking to her, then you will want to find out as much as you can about her. Your conversation should be a two-way street, so don’t over talk her and don’t be too quiet – both are signs that you aren’t that interested. When you talk too much about yourself or ramble on, it’s saying that you don’t want to hear what she has to say. Then when you are too quiet, it seems you are off in another world or don’t have much personality – two turnoffs.

Here are a few tips for starting and engaging in a conversation with an attractive girl:

  • Ask questions about her likes, dislikes and hobbies: since the two of you are first meeting, you will need to learn all you can about her, so that you can generate topics that she would enjoy conversing about. For instance, if you find out that she is an animal lover and owns a dog, you can talk about pets and maybe even ask her and her dog out to the park for a walk.
  • Find out her opinions of current events: this can be important news, fashion, trends, music, movies, etc.
  • Talk about her childhood: you can ask about where she grew up and what her childhood was like. People sometimes like to talk about this, unless they’ve had a bad childhood.
  • Bring up your own life stories that are meaningful, interesting and/or funny.
  • Focus on talking about things the two of you have in common: this can be found out while asking questions and listening to her talk.

The topics that you should avoid talking about when you first meet are:

  • Religion
  • Politics
  • Money
  • Relationships
  • Family issues
  • Health problems
  • Sex

These topics can mistakenly lead you into saying something that is offensive and ruin all of your chances of getting a date. These are all important topics, but save that after a couple of dates when things start to get more serious. Try to keep things light and airy for now.

Some questions that you could ask include:

  • Do you play sports?
  • What books do you like to read?
  • What do you do for fun?
  • What music do you listen to?
  • What movies do you like to watch?
  • What’s your favorite pastime?
  • Do you have siblings?
  • Where did you grow up?
  • Have you ever traveled abroad or plan to?
  • What was your first job, your best job or your worst job?
  • What did you want to be when you grew up?

Stay along the lines of these questions and they should surely open the doorway to some good topics that the two of you can talk about.

You should avoid talking about problems in your life or any negative situations that you have been in. This is too heavy for a first conversation and may make her feel uncomfortable. These conversations are for people who are closer to you and have feelings for you already. She may not know what to do or say if you bring up certain topics that are problematic.

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Also, don’t try to fill in every space of silence the two of you have. You don’t want to appear to be a rambler or jabber mouth. Allow the nice moments of silence to allow yourself and her to think about what was just said. It will also help the two of you extend the conversation to the next level or topic. If you really want to move it along, you can start asking her hypothetical questions. Not only will this give you a chance to probe her brain, but it will also give her an idea of how your brain works as well.

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Here are some questions that you could possibly ask:

  • If you could only own 10 items, what would you choose?
  • Would you rather be rich, famous or influential?
  • If you were only allowed to eat five foods and drinks from here on out, what would they be? (Use this question to help you choose what restaurants to take her to).
  • What time of your life would you consider to be the best and why?
  • If you won $1 million, what would you do with it?
  • Could you live life without technology?
  • Where is the ultimate place you’d like to travel to?
  • Choose five people from today or in history that you would invite over to have an intimate conversation with.
  • Who is your favorite super hero and why?
  • If you could be any animal, what would you be and why?
  • What would you do if you had the power to turn invisible?
  • If your house caught fire, what would you attempt to grab?

The questions you ask can be fun, somewhat serious or thought-provoking. Try to think up your own, but try not to make them too intimate.

Pay Close Attention

The conversations you have with the girl you’re interested in should be an education experience. Take notes in your brain and if you have to, write them down after you are alone. Or if you’re on the phone, you can take note without her knowing. Some of the things that you should take note of include:

  • What she likes and dislikes
  • Where she enjoys eating and dishes that she likes
  • Where she is from
  • If she owns pets or would like to
  • When her birthday is

“If you can show that you remember certain details about the conversations the two of you had, it will surprise her and make her feel truly special.”

Most of the time, these things go in one ear and out the other. Prove to her that you have taken a deep interest in what she enjoys by bringing them up or using it to buy gifts, take her out or surprise her in another fashion.

When conversing, look her in the eyes, nod and give facial expressions that match the mood. You should actively listen as well, by making small comments and interjecting your own opinions and stories when she’s done. Showing that you are intently listening will make her continue talking because you seem very interested. Listening is very important because it will show that you care and it will help you to gather important information about the woman of your dreams. So use this to your advantage! Just remember that if you do have different opinions about a topic, that you say them in a gentle, non-offensive way.

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Knowing when the conversation is over is important. Don’t try to keep things going for too long, especially if the two of you have already been talking for over an hour. Save something to talk about later on when the two of you meet again or chat elsewhere.

Get Her Phone Number

After having a good conversation, try asking for her phone number, so that the two of you can continue chatting. One good way to ask is that right after a good topic, pretend you have somewhere to be – look at your watch or a clock on the wall and give her an apologetic look and tell her you have to run but would love to continue chatting with her.

Then ask her for her number. You can also write your number down for her to contact you. Whatever you do, don’t leave without at least trying to get her phone number. This will show that you are truly interested in talking to her. If you shy away from asking for her digits, it will make you seem like you are uninterested or lacking confidence. You can also ask for her email address, instant messenger ID and Facebook name, depending on where she hangs out the most online. Make sure to divulge your information to her as well.

Never Let Your Confidence Down

No matter how nervous you are, never let your confidence dwindle before her eyes. Confidence is the key to attraction and if you can’t show that, you’ll quickly lose her interest. When a man is confident in what he says, what he thinks, what he does and how he does it, it makes her feel more confident in you as well. By showing uncertainties, it will make her second guess you as a man. It’s important that you not overdo the confidence thing because it could make you seem cocky. There is a different between the two.

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Your confidence should only showcase that you know who you are and what you want. It shouldn’t make her feel like she is being attacked. Never assume that she is into you until she says she is. This will only make you look conceited and that is a turnoff. You can be confident and still unsure of where she is with you. But don’t make yourself seem to worrisome about what she thinks. You can reveal your confidence by answering questions solidly and looking her in the eyes when you speak.

Taking Things to the Next Level

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Whenever you are around her, make sure to flirt with her. This will keep you out of the friend zone because it shows her that you are attracted to her as more than a friend. You can flirt by making eye contact and giving her a warm smile. Casual, flirtatious conversations can be made when the two of you are alone or close to one another in a room. Pay attention to how she reacts to your comments. What you say shouldn’t be too much, just compliment her on how nice she looks or even a non-sexual body part like her legs and arms if she noticeably works out. If you see that she smiles and shies her eyes away from you, then this is a sign that your flirts are working.

Flirting can be scary, especially when you don’t know how she will react. The key is to not think of it too much because you will only scare yourself out of doing it. Small mistakes happen all the time and in most cases they get overlooked and forgotten, so don’t fret about saying the wrong thing or saying a bad joke. Stay calm, cool and collected at all times. It’s likely that she will be nervous as well. Just try not to be too forward or offensive when you make your flirtatious comments.

Give Her Compliments

Girls love to be complimented, so look for opportunities to do so. You can give her compliments about what she’s wearing or something that she did. Try to make the compliment non-generic and more unique. Women like to feel distinct, so try to find something about her that stands out, like noticing a small feature that is attractive on her face.

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Now, you don’t want to overdo your compliments. Refrain from telling her she is beautiful too often because it will quickly lose its meaning. You can focus on pointing out things about her personality – this will show that you are paying attention to what’s inside and not just on the outside. You don’t want to seem like a shallow guy.

Give Her Something to be Impressed About

As mentioned, every girl is different, so you will have to assess the target in question. One of the best ways for how to make her like you is to impress her. Don’t boast too much, but give small snippets of achievements you’ve accomplished or future goals that may be impressive, like helping a community or traveling abroad to study a culture. Don’t forget to bring your confidence along with you, but check your cockiness at the door.

Touch Her Without Being Sleazy

There are a couple of ways that you can touch girls without seeming like a sleaze ball. Of course, you want to avoid sensual areas like the breasts, buttocks and thighs. Instead, you should focus on her hands, arms and shoulders. Of course, you don’t want to do this the very first day that you meet her, but as conversations continue on and you meet with her a couple of times, you can advance to this level. Read her to make sure that she would be comfortable with you touching her. If she smiles at you a lot and sits or stands close to you, then she may not mind that barrier being crossed.

Test the Waters by Throwing Bait

To see if she is starting to like you back, you can try hinting around how she feels about you. Say small jokes that have a double meaning and see if she smiles or gives a total look of disagreement. This should be done after a mutual attraction is felt. Be light and playful when you make jokes and suggestions.

Don’t Rush Things

The worst thing you could do is rush things along before they’re ready. This will make you seem like you’re pushy or needy. Nice girls take a while to develop certain feelings about a guy, so give her time to adjust to you and to see if she wants to take it there with you. Make her feel relaxed and like she is in control. She will remember this if and when the two of you get into a relationship.When and if this happens, you should allow her to keep her comfortable and in control.

Ask Her on a Date

By this time, you should know if she is interested in you or not. She is likely waiting for you to ask her, so do it! Invite her to dinner, a show, a park or anywhere that you think she would enjoy. During your first date, make sure that she feels like the center of your world. This is the time to get more intimate with your conversations, but not too heavy. You can make her feel comfortable and special by:

  • Confiding in her
  • Being yourself
  • Being genuinely romantic

Show her chivalry isn’t dead and bring her her favorite treats and flowers. If it’s chilly out, give her your jacket and don’t forget to open doors!

Further awesome resources about getting girls attracted to you:

  1. How to Get a Girl to Like You: 16 steps (with pictures) – wikiHow
  2. How To Get A Girl To Like You – AskMen
  3. How to Make a Girl Fall in Love with You | Girls Chase

Please let us know what you think and share your tips in the comment section below.

  • Erin

    Of course, it goes without saying that you should always try to improve bad qualities like, being rude or inconsiderate and cheep..and a bad dancer. But generally you should just be yourself and like minded women will gravitate towards you. You simply need to go out more, and be available to meet women. No game face required.

  • Lillian, Toronto

    On behalf of all women, I apologize that you men folk have to take courses and training to learn how to deal with us and how to get us to like you. It shouldn’t be such a struggle!

    • Jerry James

      Apology accepted! lol

  • kim johnson


    • Hey Kim, thanks for stopping by and letting us know what yout think!!!

  • efpierce

    Some of the best tips ever! Thanks for those and help us out more on how to stay out of that friend zone. I would like to see a whole post on that.

  • sarah

    There really isn’t any way to avoid being put into the friend zone, it’s a choice that happens when you first meet a guy. These are some good tips though and it makes for a fun game prior to dating.

    • Erica

      Sarah, totally agree- men end up in the friend zone because we simply don’t find them sexually attractive but we like their ‘personality’.

  • These are really great tips, usually I just let fate take it’s course, I wasn’t a big believer in taking control.

  • Alvin

    This guide is great. You really hit on the key factors of getting to know a woman and dating a woman. I learned the hard way that not paying attention when she shared things with me just made it look like I was not interested in her. Paying attention also helps you to make connections with her.

  • David

    Goodness man, did you try writing a book here? This is great! I totally need help when it comes to getting a girl. I have a thing for a couple girls here in college, but my social anxiety keeps me from pursuing. There’s one girl I might just say “hey, want to hang out sometime” and see where it goes from there.

    Awesome article by the way! 🙂

  • Joel K.

    I’ve always had problems when it came to trying to get a girlfriend. I’ve always wondered what it was, I’m fairly in shape, have a good job and all that, but I guess I’m just awkward otherwise. Anyways I will certainly utilize your techniques and see where it goes from there. 🙂

  • Cassy

    There are great guys out there. It seems as if more good guys get tossed out than the bad guys. I’ve dated my fair share of bad guys, ones who’re just always trying to prove their dominance. I believe a good guy is the way to go. Being yourself and being fun and entertaining is what makes me happy about some men out there.

  • Jared

    Thank you for this informative piece of info. I’ve been having a lot of trouble these days when it comes to girls. I’m a bit on the big side, but I’m always nice to the ladies. I’m funny, smart, and I’m always respectful of women. I’m for sure going to try these out on girls I like and see where things go from there.

    • Norman

      Being big isn’t really a problem, a lot of chicks seem to like that. Me, I’m always told that I’m too skinny. I’ve been trying to work out and stuff, but I’m pretty sure I’m a freak show naked right now.

  • Kendrick

    I read this article the other day, and I’ll be honest with you, it actually helped. There’s this woman at my work that I really dig, I’ve been talking to her a lot and we enjoy each other’s company, anyways I tried some of the things in this article, and she and I will be hanging out this Friday, first we’re going to see a movie, go to get some food and just walk around town and see where it takes us. Thanks bro!

  • Craig Bellamy

    That first video is pretty funny, at first i thought it was a ugly girl sat in the middle of 2 guys then boom he whips out the guns although i do think he was enjoying wearing that dress a little too much.

  • Kevin Bailey

    Nothing worse than being friend zoned by a hot chick.

    My one piece of advice though would be to try and friend zone the ones you don’t have a crush on, and they can put good words in for you with their friends 😉

    • Bart

      While that sounds like good advice in theory, I’ve had it backfire on me on several occasions. Sure, it’s gotten more chicks to talk to me, but they automatically put me in the friend zone before even meeting me if they’ve heard about me as a friend of other girls.

  • Justin Kershaw

    The opening doors at the end there is a top tip, The girl’s love that one and always comment “your such a gentleman” then boom you can make your move 😉

  • Henry Day

    Great list of topics to avoid, especially when you have just met someone as different opinions here can throw your catch of the day back in the sea,

    Another quick tip: If you have forgot to get her name say you met her in a club but you have her number. You can search on facebook on your iphone by numbers and her name should pop up if she has the number listed.

    • Ian T.

      This is the good thing about social media. I’ve met some really awesome chicks, but I tend to forget a woman’s name because of pressure. I tend to focus on how to keep the convo going, so I will tend to always forget a woman’s name. Thankfully I always get their numbers and I usually use facebook.

      Most of the time it works, but not always sadly. 🙁

  • Max

    Definitely true on the don’t over complement, Girls will start to think you are creepy or even worse expect you to compliment them all of the time and they may even begin to think they are more superior than you as you are worshiping them.

  • Jessie

    EVERY guy at some point in his life wants to know this! LOL, no matter what age they are

  • jimminy

    The friend zone is a lonely, lonely place that no man wants to be when trying to get the girl. It’s also one of the toughest places to get out of it seems.

    • York

      Oh for sure bro. I know how you feel. I’ve been pushed to the friend zone often in my life and it totally sucks the life out of you. There was this one girl I really liked, I mean close to love it felt like. We hung out all the time, talked about random things and we were hitting it off. I decided to make my move and just flat out kiss her, she didn’t like that and she was like “I don’t like you like that, sorry.”

      It hurt big time and I hate it. I’m still friends with this girl, and I constantly try to impress her in the hopes of getting her to like me back. I’ve gone so far once to play a song for her that I made, but it didn’t go over so well.

      I figure it’s time to move on to the next girl. It sucks though, having so much in common with this girl is a dream come true, yet it’s a nightmare to not be able to be with her as her boyfriend.

    • Manuel

      Especially when you get known as “the friend” to all the other girls in town, making you pretty much undateable. Such is my life right now.

  • Jamie

    “Never Let Your Confidence Down” — This is truly great advice. I seen an ad on television once that touted about never letting them see you sweat and it’s basically the same thing.

  • Paz

    Staying fun and relaxed is great advice. If you’re both having a great time why shouldn’t things escalate later. The problem I mainly have is keeping the fun going after the joking stops 🙂 if you know what I mean

  • JimJim

    YES, thank you for all of this. It’s like an encyclopedia of helpful tips. I dig it bro. I have crap luck when it comes to the ladies, and there’s a lot of women I have my eye on currently. I will have to follow every step and idea in this and see where it takes me.

    I have confidence to some extent, I just don’t show it enough. 🙁

  • Orion

    It’s all about being happy with ones self. If you want to get a woman, just go for it, don’t stop, go right for it. What I do is I go up to a woman and say “Hello, how are you today?” And work from there. As long as I show I’m confident in myself and don’t stumble with my words, she will find me interesting.

    Now, this doesn’t mean she will be completely smitten with me, but it’s a start.

  • Cole S.

    My luck with women is like my luck with school. I fail a lot. I had a girlfriend 3 years ago who cheated on me, and it ruined me big time. I was a softy and a big baby after we broke up. I couldn’t believe the girl I had loved could cheat on me.

    Anyways I haven’t had the best of luck since. Constantly I worry about my self image, the way I act and I wonder why she cheated of me in the first place. I really need to get a new girlfriend soon, I’m going insane.

    I just want a woman who’s not the type to cheat and not the type to worry about my little boring tendencies. I just want a girl who’ll be there for me, and will listen to me. I know this sounds corny, but it’s how I feel. I will follow this whole article and see if it can help me out.

  • Ryan

    I’ve seen a lot of my friends have trouble with girls. I’m not really romeo myself, but I see girls interested in them, and they for whatever reason either miss it completely or just can’t get themselves to come out and ask. If I had girls interested in me, I would take full advantage of the situation, and I don’t get why my friends don’t!

  • william jason o’neal

    first off the idea of bring toned is what annoys me because I’m not trying to be like Justin biebe’s physique.

  • Isaac

    If the girl is truly worth to be with, you shouldn’t have to go over the top or to extreme measures to make her to like you. Big, fancy approaches tend to work best for girls that aren’t the type to be in a long term relationship. Just be yourself and you’ll find your girl.

  • Greta

    As a girl I have to say that for me matters most when I connect with a guy; having common passions and interests is very helpful because you have tons of stuff to talk about. This doesn’t mean you should be each other’s clone; you just have to look for someone that you will like to spend time talking to.

  • Landon

    Man, I used to be super shy and this affected badly my relationships, even causing a breakup because I wasn’t able to tell her that I cared about her and that I loved spending my time dreaming in two. Things changed in the last couple of years and now packing a ton of confidence is essential whenever you try to approach a girl because it makes you look more grounded and cool.

  • Nathan

    Appearance isn’t everything but if you don’t pay attention to your overall fitness level and have a normal hygiene routine, how do you expect any girl to take you seriously? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying you should go metrosexual 100% but looking decent will help you a LOT.

  • Dylan

    Being genuine and sincere helped me attract the right kind of girls. The key is to avoid being very hopeful right from the start; chances are you won’t end up having lots of dates with the girl you like best but this doesn’t mean you should end up being alone.