Admit it – most of us still get the jitters when going on a first date. Whether you are a nerd or a jock, you still have that feeling of dread as well as that pressure of making a good impression.
Of course, first impressions last, and that first date would probably be the measuring stick as to whether you’ll be getting a second one.
Self-confidence is something that is very important when dating, especially for men. They are the ones who are expected to hold the conversation and to keep the evening’s activities alive. Fail that, and don’t expect a kiss goodnight from your date.
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Thus, it is important to build self-confidence so that you can be at your best, and so that you can make a lasting impression on your companion, opening up new doors for you and your potential relationship.
First and foremost, be confident with the way you look. Dress sharply and get a shave and haircut. Make sure that your nails are clipped neatly, and that your clothes are free of wrinkles or stains. Polish your shoes and dab on a little bit of cologne.
Don’t overdo it, though – just a few dabs along the collar would probably do the trick. Of course, don’t forget the essentials, like brushing your hair as well as your teeth, and you can probably bring a few breath mints for good measure. If you are confident with the way you look in the mirror before you even step out of the house, then that confidence will ooze out of you all through the night.
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If you are the type of person that cannot make up conversations on the fly, it would be good to rehearse the evening in your mind. Think up of compliments to say, stories that you would like to share questions that you would like to ask, and you can even throw in a couple of clean and inoffensive jokes along the way. You can ask for the opinion of a lady friend about the things that you would like to say, and you can ask for her reactions on the matter.
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You can also ask your friends for some great lines that you can use in order to sound charming without sounding like a pick up artist. Once you’re on your date, just follow the script you’ve planned out in your head, although expect to make some alterations along the way. Once you and your partner are comfortable with each other, you will notice that the verbal interactions will come along much more smoothly and natural.
Aside from rehearsing your words, don’t forget to rehearse your actions, as well. Assume a confidence by keeping your back straight. Also, refrain from keeping your head bowed. Practice maintaining eye contact at all times. Women love men who look at them when talking, as they feel that they are giving their entire attention to them, and this is something that scores major points in the dating department. In addition to posture, do not forget to act like a gentleman.
Rehearse things such as opening doors and pulling up chairs for her in your mind, and don’t forget to do those things during your big date.
Also, do not be afraid of a little physical contact. Touching is a display of confidence when done correctly. A firm handshake during introductions, a gentle touch on her arm or on the small of her back when guiding her through crowds, or even a slight touch on the back of her hand are signs of confidence, and it shows her your intentions clearly. Again, do not overdo it, though, as you would just look like a sleaze.
Like any activity, dating also requires a plan. Make sure that all your other concerns for the night are settled, and that you have brought enough money and have enough gas for your car.
Don’t forget to turn off your phone or put it on silent mode, too, as nothing is more annoying than a conversation getting interrupted by a phone call. Not only is it considered rude, but the otherwise great evening might be ruined by some relatively minor issue at home or at work.
Lastly, do not be someone that you are not. Simply be yourself and be confident with the way that you are. If your partner cannot accept you if you are a computer nerd or if you still live with your parents, then it probably would not work out in the end. Do not lie about who and what you are, as you would have trouble backtracking on the truths and lies once you return to it. Simply be confident with who you are and what you can offer, and accept whatever the outcome would be.
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Do not put too much pressure on the date. It is something that should be enjoyed, regardless of whether you’ll be getting a second date or not. It is normal to feel awkward or uncomfortable at first, but that would quickly dissipate once you and your date have established a connection.
Simply be confident in the things that you do or say, and soon everything would come out naturally. If it does not work out in the end, then simply chalk it up as a loss. There are a lot of fishes in the sea, and one failed date would not mean the end of the world.
These are but some tips that you can use when preparing for a date. Whether or not a date is successful, always do a “post-op” check of the things that you have done right or wrong, and make sure that you learn and improve on your technique when the next date comes around, whether it be with the same person or not.
Regardless, do not forget to put up a nice big smile and be confident when talking or acting around your date, and the two of you are more or less assured of a wonderful night together, with the possibility of a second, third, or fourth date as well as a potential relationship just around the corner.
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